Revamp your life to grow, evolve, and become who you want to be
Lifestorming is the indispensably practical handbook for becoming the person you want to be. Redesign your life, friends, behaviors, and beliefs to move closer to your goals every single day, guided by expert insight and deep introspection. Written by a veteran author team behind almost 100 books on human behavior, this guide helps you learn why you do things the way you do them, and how to do them better. The Lifestorming Test allows you to assess your current state in concrete terms, and assess your ability to change and adapt — from there, it’s about identifying people, actions, habits, and beliefs that either support your personal and professional growth or hold you back. You’ll learn the six building blocks of character, challenge your belief system, develop a leadership mindset, and overcome the fear and guilt of success. You’ll map out an action plan, and learn how to continually move forward at work, at home, and in everyday life.
We often don’t realize how much of our natural default is established by others. Whose goals are you working toward? Are you measuring your progress with the correct yardstick? This book shows you how to take a step back and compare your life today with the future you want — and build a plan for changing track toward constant evolution and growth.
* Assess your current state and your capacity for change
* Develop the right goals and the right metrics to create the future you want
* Learn how character evolves, and why it’s essential to growth
* Change your habits and behaviors to consistently grow and evolve
We all carry around old baggage, obsolete ‘friendships’, and counterproductive beliefs — and every day, they pull us a little further away from what we really want. Lifestorming is your real-world guide to shedding the stagnation, and allowing yourself to grow into the person you want to become.
Table of Content
Introduction ix
Chapter 1 Setting Our Own Aspirations 1
How We Can Become Programmed 1
An Evolutionary Journey 4
Applying the Right Criteria 8
The Impossible Dream 10
Life’s Detours 13
Chapter 2 The Importance of New Friends 17
Why Old Friends and Old Habits Tend to Stick Together 17
Breaking Out of the ‘Good Enough’ Trap 19
The Best Relationships Grow with Us 20
Watertight Doors 22
Letting Go to Reach Out 25
Why We Halt the Journey 28
Frankie Valli and the Four Seasons 32
Chapter 3 Behavioral Metamorphosis 35
Making Deliberate Change 35
Ugly Caterpillars and Uglier Butterflies 40
Metabehavior 43
Aspiration-Appropriate Behavior 48
Chapter 4 Believe It or Not 55
Breaking into the Belief Vault 55
Challenging and Evaluating Your Belief System 60
The Creation of Attitudes for Growth 65
Beliefs Manifest in Behavior 68
Chapter 5 The Importance and Evolution of Character 73
Character’s Composition 73
Character Test 77
Ethical and Moral Behavior 80
A Slow, Steady March 82
The Meaning of Presence 86
Consistency in Turbulent Times 90
Assuming Formal and Informal Leadership 93
Self-Assessment 98
Chapter 6 Critical Abandonment (Knowing When to Hold and When to Fold) 103
The Dynamics of Keeping and of Changing 103
Adjustments and Accommodations 111
GPS and Roadside Assistance 115
Staying the Course 118
Chapter 7 The New You 123
Overcoming Fear 124
Banishing Guilt 128
Ending Shame 131
Maintaining High Self-Worth 133
Gaining and Sustaining Leverage 134
Chapter 8 Sustaining the Journey 141
Growth through Generosity 141
Evolution through Exploration 146
New Dimensions of Relationships 151
Legacy 155
Chapter 9 Self-Mastery: The Lifestorming Field Guide to Your Successful Journey 161
Testing Yourself 163
Index 185
About the author
Alan Weiss is an acclaimed consultant, speaker, and author. His consulting firm, Summit Consulting Group, Inc., has attracted clients that include more than 500 leading organizations. He has published more than 500 articles and 60 books, including the bestselling Million Dollar Consulting.
Marshall Goldsmith is an executive coach and business educator. His mission is to help successful leaders achieve positive, lasting change in behavior; for themselves, their people, and their teams. He is the author or coauthor of Triggers, What Got You Here Won’t Get You There, and Mojo, among others.