‘I warned you Brenda, that’s what you get for dating a soldier – heartache. A life of heartache.’ It’s an army spouse’s worst nightmare. It’s what you fear more than anything. But fear cannot prepare you for the reality, or the desperate heartache. I Married a Soldier tells the deeply moving, true story of Brenda Hale whose husband, Mark, was taken from her in an instant while serving in Afghanistan. In the midst of the grief, distress, and financial confusion caused by Mark’s death, Brenda became determined to fight for the rights of her two daughters and their futures. Her campaigning to support bereaved forces families eventually led her into politics, where she rose to be a member of the Northern Ireland Assembly. This is the powerful story of how one woman found a way through an event that threatened to crush her, by drawing on her faith in God and on a personal strength she didn’t know she had.
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Acknowledgments 8
Acknowledgments from Rachel Farmer 9
Foreword 11
Chapter 1: July 2009… a time to rest 15
Chapter 2: February 1985: Northern Ireland… a time to dance 23
Chapter 3: July 1987: Bournemouth… a time to love 33
Chapter 4: December 1987: Poole, Dorset… a time to begin 43
Chapter 5: 1990: Dorset… a time to believe 55
Chapter 6: September 1992: Werl, Germany… a time to wait 63
Chapter 7: January 1994: Werl, Germany… a time to embrace 77
Chapter 8: December 1996: Plymouth… a time to learn 89
Chapter 9: September 2000: Twickenham… a time to be born 101
Chapter 10: September 2001: Twickenham… a time to fight 109
Chapter 11: July 2002: Northern Ireland… a time to grieve 123
Chapter 12: 2004: Northern Ireland… a time to dream 131
Chapter 13: 2006: Dromara, Northern Ireland… a time to treasure 143
Chapter 14: July 2009: Dromara… a time to be still 157
Chapter 15: July 2009… a time to laugh 165
Chapter 16: July 2009… a time to leave 177
Chapter 17: August 2009… a time to hope 183
Chapter 18: Thursday 13 August 2009… a time to die 189
Chapter 19: 13 August 2009… a time to cry 195
Chapter 20: 18 August 2009… a time to mourn 199
Chapter 21: 18 August 2009… a time to weep 209
Chapter 22: 1 September 2009… a time to honour 219
Chapter 23: October 2009… a time to pray 227
Chapter 24: November 2009… a time to remember 237
Chapter 25: April 2010… a time to speak up 245
Chapter 26: May 2010… a time to uproot 251
Chapter 27: December 2010… a time to plant 259
Chapter 28: May 2011… a time to start 273
Epilogue: September 2016… a time to reflect 277