While encountering setbacks and failures, we often condemn and criticize ourselves, feel that we are useless, as if all misfortunes were caused by ourselves, and we are caught in incomparable blame and pain. We feel sympathy and comfort are justifications for ourselves. They are evasive reality and irresponsible behavior. In fact, everyone needs "self-compassion." The book Reconcile with Yourself tells us that self-compassion is an attitude of total acceptance and kindness, understanding your failure with a mild attitude, and calmly accepting the painful thoughts and emotions of the moment. This is not a compromise on reality, but reconciliation with yourself.