Learn to understand the unaddressed symptom of mental health
In I Hate Myself: Overcome Self-Hatred and Realize Why You’re Wrong About You, internationally known Assistant Professor of Psychiatry at Harvard Medical School Dr. Blaise Aguirre tackles the pervasive and often ignored issue of self-hatred. This book provides crucial insights into identifying and overcoming this deeply disturbing feeling, explaining why common practices of ‘self-care’ or ‘self-love’ often fall short in cases where self-hatred has become an integral part of a person’s identity.
Dr. Aguirre shares compelling first-hand accounts from patients who have battled and conquered self-hatred, revealing the severe impact this feeling has on people from all walks of life and their loved ones. The book delves into the roots of self-hatred, associated mental health disorders, and offers practical strategies for overcoming these challenges.
In the book, you will:
- Learn to identify the origins and signs of self-hatred
- Understand the connection between self-hatred and suicidal behavior as well as to co-occurring disorders like borderline personality disorder and depression
- Discover effective strategies for transforming self-loathing into self-compassion
Perfect for those struggling with self-hatred and their loved ones, as well as mental health professionals, I Hate Myself offers a compassionate and practical approach to achieving self-acceptance. Start your journey towards healing today and embrace the self-worth you deserve.
Table of Content
Foreword vii
Introduction xi
Structure of the Book xvii
Part 1 Understanding Self-hatred 1
1 What Is Self-Hatred? 3
2 Why Is Overcoming Self-Hatred So Critical? 23
3 Common Signs of Self-Hatred 33
4 The Lived Experience 51
5 What Is the Self That You Are Hating? 65
Part 2 Roots of Self-hatred 75
6 Where Does Self-Hatred Come From? 77
7 Could It Be Temperament or Biology? 99
Part 3 Self-hatred in Mental Health 105
8 Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) and Self-Hatred 107
9 Other Psychiatric Diagnoses and Self-Hatred 117
10 Other Personality Traits and Self-Hatred 129
Part 4 Treatment and Overcoming Barriers to Treatment 137
11 Targeting Self-Hatred 139
12 Why Is Self-Hatred So Hard to Tackle? 173
13 Reflections of Therapists 187
14 Advice from Those with Lived Experience 197
15 Alternative Treatment Ideas 231
Part 5 Finding Hope and Technology’s Limits 249
16 The Dawn of Hope 251
17 AI’s Take on Self-Hatred 257
Afterword 263
References 265
I Hate Myself 273
Acknowledgments and Gratitude 275
About the Author 277
Index 279
About the author
BLAISE AGUIRRE is Assistant Professor in Psychiatry at Harvard Medical School in the Department of Psychiatry. He is a child and adolescent psychiatrist and the founding Medical Director of the 3East dialectical behavior therapy continuum of care at Harvard affiliated Mc Lean Hospital. He is also the author of Coping with BPD, Mindfulness for Borderline Personality Disorder, DBT for Dummies, and Borderline Personality Disorder in Adolescents.