‘This book is a memoir in poetry about family stories, mother-daughter relationships, women’s work, mothering, writing, family secrets, and patterns of communication in close relationships. Faulkner knits connections between a DIY (do-it-yourself) value, economics, and family culture through the use of poems and images, which present four generations of women in her family and trouble “women’s work” of mothering, cooking and crafting. Family stories anchor family culture and provide insight into relational and family life. This work may be used as a teaching tool to get us to think about the stories that we tell and don’t tell in families and the importance of how family is created, maintained, and altered in our stories. The poetry voices the themes of economic and collective family self-reliance and speaks to cultural discourses of feminist resistance and resilience, relational and personal identities. This book can be read for pleasure as a collection of poetry or used as a springboard for reflection and discussion in courses such as family communication, sociology of gender and the family, psychology of women, relational communication, and women’s studies. “Sandra’s innovative arts-based social science text demystifies poetic inquiry, providing readers both an embodied example of excellence and detailed exercises for use when practicing one’s own craft.” – Elizabeth A. Suter, University of Denver “Through this book, Faulkner presents a refreshing way of understanding, researching, and teaching about the communication in families.” – Pamela J. Lannutti, La Salle University “Faulkner takes readers into the personal lives of four generations of mothers and daughters, poetically uncovering concrete aspects of social processes of family, motherhood, relationships, and writing. A fusion of social science and art that invites engagement of all your senses to understand the felt truth of lived experience.” – Carolyn Ellis, University of South Florida “Captivating, nuanced, and often surprising, Faulkner’s work is a vital contribution that bridges the chasm between traditional interpersonal communication research and brave new artistic worlds for relationship studies.” Jimmie Manning, Northern Illinois University Social Fictions Series International Editorial Advisory Board Carl Bagley, University of Durham, UK Anna Banks, University of Idaho, USA Carolyn Ellis, University of South Florida, USA Rita Irwin, University of British Columbia, Canada J. Gary Knowles, University of Toronto, Canada Laurel Richardson, The Ohio State University (Emeritus), USA Sandra L. Faulkner is Associate Professor of Communication and Director of Women’s, Gender and Sexuality Studies at BGSU. Her teaching and research interests include qualitative methodology, poetic inquiry, and sexuality in close relationships. Left Coast Press published her books Poetry as Method: Reporting Research through Verse and Inside Relationships: A Creative Casebook on Relational Communication. Her poetry appears in places such as Qualitative Inquiry, Women & Language, Storm Cellar, Literary Mama, and Sugar House Review, and her chapbook, Hello Kitty Goes to College, was published by dancing girl press. She lives in NW Ohio with her partner, their warrior girl, and a rescue mutt. ‘
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‘Preface; Acknowledgements; Knit Four, Frog One; Poems 1; Mother/Grand/Daughter (Figure 1); KNIT STITCH; Eating Dinner; Farm Trilogy; When the preacher came by the house after our year absence ; SUBJECT: Becoming Midwestern Beige, Ph D; my memories are mother (Figure 2); Make Two; On My 30th Birthday, I Leave Paul for the Plane to the Sex Conference; My Feminist Valentine Painting the Church-House Doors Harlot Red on Easter Weekend; Memo to Faulkner from the Fluff and Fold; Stubborn @ Dinner; PURL STITCH; Girl Bravado; Waiting for Mimi (Figure 3); Pacifier Ode; Instructions for Surviving Infant; Over-Active Letdown; How to Potty Train When Presenting a Manuscript on Maternal Poetry; Middle-Aged Run; Mother/Daughter; Baby Ripple Blanket; 1975 Singer Athena 2000 Electronic Sewing Machine; Dinner @ the Church-House with the 4-year-old; HURDLE STITCH; Nietzsche @ The Coffee Shop; Learn to Knit; Telemarketers; Pretty Straight Girls; In The Court of Common Pleas (Figure 4); Faulkner’s Furious Tank; Hoagland Writes to Faulkner about Thingitude; Dead Leg Ode; Bedtime Story (Figure 5); Doing Dishes; At the Viewing Guns @ Breakfast; FROGGING; Morning Coffee; In this breaking up dream; Writing a Cancer Sonnet @ the ENT Doctor’s Office, December 4, 2013; Death and Dying; Millicent’s Opera Glasses; Relational Therapy; How to Write a Break-Up (#2); How to Date Catholic Boys; Rear View Mirror; Cleaning out the Sock Drawer; Death @ Bedtime; KITCHENER STITCH; Date Nut Muffins @ Breakfast; Home, Run; Invitation to a Dead Grandmother; Lament; Bye-Bye Paci (Figure 6); Nanny Says; A Man, A Woman, Penetration; Suicide Window, Toledo; Winter Run; Remodeling Dream; How to Write a Break-Up (#3); Story Time; Appendix: Poetic Inquiry Exercises: How to Write Poetry about Family; References; About the Author. ‘