When you are showered with attention, it can feel incredibly romantic and can blind you to hints of problems ahead. But what happens when attentiveness becomes domination? In some relationships, the desire to control leads to jealousy, gaslighting, threats, micromanaging–even physical violence. If you or someone you care about are trapped in a web of coercive control, this book provides answers, hope, and a way out. Lisa Aronson Fontes draws on both professional expertise and personal experience to help you:
*Recognize controlling behaviors of all kinds.
*Understand why this destructive pattern occurs.
*Determine whether you are in danger and if your partner can change.
*Protect yourself and your kids.
*Find the support and resources you need.
*Take action to improve or end your relationship.
*Regain your freedom and independence.
Tabella dei contenuti
Contents
About This Book
I. What Is Coercive Control?
1. Introduction to Coercive Control
2. Controlling Behaviors
II. Why Coercive Control Happens
3. Why Some Men Control Their Partners in This Way
4. Why Some Women Get and Stay Involved
III. Coercive Control In Specific Populations
5. Different Gender Arrangements and Coercive Control
6. Teenage Victims of Coercive Control
IV. Ending Coercive Control
7. Are You Being Victimized?
8. Are You Staying? Expecting Change?
9. Ending the Relationship
10. Feeling Like Yourself Again: Recovering from Coercive Control
11. If Someone You Care About Is Being Victimized by Coercive Control
12. Conclusion
Resources
Circa l’autore
Lisa Aronson Fontes, Ph D, has a doctorate in counseling psychology and has worked in the areas of child abuse, violence against women, challenging family issues, and cross-cultural research for over 25 years. A professor, researcher, and popular conference speaker, she teaches at the University of Massachusetts Amherst. Dr. Fontes is the author of
Invisible Chains: Overcoming Coercive Control in Your Intimate Relationship as well as the professional resources
Child Abuse and Culture and
Interviewing across Cultures.