M.J. Ryan 
How to Survive Change You Didn’t Ask For [EPUB ebook] 
Bounce Back, Find Calm in Chaos and Reinvent Yourself (Change for the Better, Uncertainty of Life)

Contents

I. Welcome to “Permanent White Water”

II. Seven Truths About Change

• Change Truth #1: Change Is the One Thing You Can Count On


• Change Truth #2: It’s Not Personal


• Change Truth #3: Your Thinking Is Not Always Your Friend


• Change Truth #4: Change Isn’t the Enemy, Fear Is


• Change Truth #5: There’s a Predictable Emotional Cycle to Change


• Change Truth #6: You’re More Resilient Than You May Think


• Change Truth #7: Your Future Is Built on a Bedrock That Is Unchanging

III. The Actions of a Change Master

• Step 1: Accept the Change




• Gather the Facts Like a Newspaper Reporter


• What Other Information Do You Need?


• The Truth Will Set You Free (Or at Least into Motion)


• If You Can See It, It’s Yours to Deal With


• How Could This Be Good Luck?


• “Worry Well”


• What Core Issue Does This Trigger?


• Relate to Your Fear


• Send Out an SOS


• Recognize If You’re Milling


• It’s Good to Bitch and Moan but Not Forever


• Get the 3Cs in Place


• Choose Carefully Where You Put Your Attention


• Avoid Shame by Remembering That Difficulties Can Happen to Anyone


• Don’t Waste Precious Time or Energy on Blame


• Regret Well


• Experience the Comfort of Forgiveness


• Do the Three Blessings


• Cultivate Your Witness Self


• Stay Open to Miracles


• Find the Gift in the Change


Step 2: Expand Your Options



• What Helps You Expand Your Thinking?


• How Does Your Self-Concept Need to Change?


• Seek Information Outside Your Box


• Hedge Your Bets


• Kill Your Little Darlings


• Tap Into Your Inner Resources


• What Other Resources Are Available?


• Be Like the Native Americans


• Create the Necessary Reserves


• Don’t Go into the Wilderness Without Your Compass


• What Are Your Inner Talents?


• Reexamine Your Priorities


• Envision Your Next Chapter


• Who Do You Need by Your Side?


• Watch the Road, Not the Potholes




• Step 3: Take Action




• Create a Story of Possibility


• Make Deposits into Your Hope Account


• Hope Is Not a Plan


• Get the Balls in the Air


• Think Through the Implications


• Just Do One Thing


• Ready, Fire, Aim


• Evaluate Progress


• If You’re Not Stretching, You’re Probably Missing Something


• Do What’s Needed


• Build Your Brand


• Get More Connected


• Create a Change Masters Circle


• Use an Inspiring Mantra to Keep Up Your Spirits


• Focus on the Upside of Scaling Back


• Allow Your Circumstances to Open Your Heart




• Step 4: Strengthen Adaptability




• Become a Lifelong Learner


• Reflect on Your Learnings

IV. Twenty Quick Tips for Surviving Change You Didn’t Ask For

V. Resources for More Support

For Personal Support from Me
About the Author

Known internationally as an expert on change, M.J. Ryan works as an executive coach to senior executives and entrepreneurs around the world, helping them accelerate business success and personal fulfillment. She combines a practical approach gained as the CEO of a book publishing company with methodologies from neuroscience, positive psychology, and asset-focused learning to help clients and readers more easily meet their goals. Her client list includes Royal Dutch Shell, Microsoft, Time, the U.S. military, and Aon Hewitt. She’s a partner with the Levo League career network and the lead venture coach at She EO, an organization offering a new funding and support model for female entrepreneurs. She’s the founder of Conari Press, creator of the New York Times bestselling Random Acts of Kindness series, and author of many books, including Habit Changers: 81 Game-Changing Mantras to Mindfully Realize Your Goals.