From the best-selling author of The End of Your Life Book Club comes a warm, funny, irresistible book that follows an improbable and life-changing friendship over the course of forty years. Moving. Salted with intelligence and empathy New York Times Book Review A page-turner New Yorker Really shines San Francisco Chronicle Gorgeous Sebastian Junger ————-Imagine a secret society which pairs you with your polar opposite.You meet regularly.What would you talk about?Could you become friends?Will is bookish, quiet, gay, manning AIDS helplines.Maxey is loud, a wrestler, a Jock, intent on a military life.But paired together over dinner, beers, pool games they forge an extraordinary and resilient bond.We Should Not Be Friends is an account of their odd-couple relationship, its ups and downs, twists and turns, the misunderstandings and the trust built over forty turbulent years.————- A rare view of male friendship . . . succeeds because Maxey comes across as a great character, a warm and devoted friend NPR Schwalbe has an uncanny ability to use his personal experience as a springboard for universal truths Los Angeles Times A charming read with plenty of surprises. Celebrates not only an unlikely friendship, but the strange turns a life can take Wall Street Journal Schwalbe s memoir shines. Written like a true friend Daily Mail