George MacDonald 
The Princess and the Goblin [EPUB ebook] 

“We are all very anxious to be understood, and it is very hard not to be. But there is one thing much more necessary.’What is that, grandmother?’To understand other people.’Yes, grandmother. I must be fair — for if I’m not fair to other people, I’m not worth being understood myself. I see.” ― George Mac Donald,  The Princess and the Goblin