People with borderline personality disorder (BPD) can be intensely caring, warm, smart, and funny—but their behavior often drives away those closest to them. If you’re struggling in a tumultuous relationship with someone with BPD, this is the book for you. Dr. Shari Manning helps you understand why your spouse, family member, or friend has such out-of-control emotions—and how to change the way you can respond. Learn to use simple yet powerful strategies that can defuse crises, establish better boundaries, and radically transform your relationship. Empathic, hopeful, and science based, this is the first book for family and friends grounded in dialectical behavior therapy (DBT), the most effective treatment for BPD.
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Foreword,
Marsha M. Linehan
Introduction
I. Understanding Your Loved One and Your Relationship
1. “Why Do I Feel So Lost in This Relationship?”
2. What Makes Someone So Emotional?
3. The Hidden Power of Validation
4. Five Steps to Balanced Responses and Better Outcomes
II. The Many Faces of Borderline Personality Disorder
5. ‘I Can’t Stand Feeling Like This!’
6. ‘It Was All My Fault’
7. ‘You Have to Fix This for Me!’
8. ‘Things Are Awful . . . but Don’t Worry; I’m Handling It’
9. ‘Why Do Terrible Things Keep Happening to Me?’
10. ‘Nothing’s Wrong—I’m Fine’
III. Dealing with Crisis and Getting Help
11. Handling Your Own Difficult Emotions
12. Understanding Self-Harm/Suicide and Making Decisions about Hospitalization
13. Getting Treatment and Support
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Shari Y. Manning, Ph D, is a clinician in private practice and the former President/CEO of Behavioral Tech and Behavioral Tech Research, the organizations founded by Marsha M. Linehan to provide training in DBT. Dr. Manning has focused on the treatment of people with BPD since 1993. She lives in Columbia, South Carolina.