AARP Digital Editions offer you practical tips, proven solutions,
and expert guidance. In Loving Someone Who Has Dementia,
Pauline Boss provides research-based advice for people who care for
someone with dementia.
Nearly half of U.S. citizens over the age of 85 are suffering
from some kind of dementia and require care. Loving Someone Who
Has Dementia is a new kind of caregiving book. It’s not about
the usual techniques, but about how to manage on-going stress and
grief. The book is for caregivers, family members, friends,
neighbors as well as educators and professionals–anyone
touched by the epidemic of dementia. Dr. Boss helps caregivers find
hope in ‘ambiguous loss’–having a loved one both here and not
here, physically present but psychologically absent.
* Outlines seven guidelines to stay resilient while caring for
someone who has dementia
* Discusses the meaning of relationships with individuals who are
cognitively impaired and no longer as they used to be
* Offers approaches to understand and cope with the emotional
strain of care-giving
Boss’s book builds on research and clinical experience, yet the
material is presented as a conversation. She shows you a way to
embrace rather than resist the ambiguity in your relationship with
someone who has dementia.
Зміст
Preface ix
Acknowledgments xiii
Introduction xv
1 The Ambiguous Loss of Dementia: How Absence and Presence
Coexist 1
2 The Complications of Both Loss and Grief 21
3 Stress, Coping, and Resiliency 37
4 The Myth of Closure 55
5 The Psychological Family 71
6 Family Rituals, Celebrations, and Gatherings 91
7 Seven Guidelines for the Journey 109
8 Delicious Ambiguity 137
9 The Good-Enough Relationship 155
Conclusion 167
A Note to Caregivers About Working with Health Care
Professionals 173
Resources 181
Notes 187
About the Author 215
Index 217
Про автора
Pauline Boss, Ph D, is emeritus professor at the University of Minnesota and was visiting professor at Harvard Medical School, 1995-1996, and Hunter School of Social Work 2004-2005. She is best known for her groundbreaking research as the pioneer theorist and clinical practitioner of stress reduction for people whose loved ones are ambiguously lost.