After enduring Nazi imprisonment and losing most of her family during the Holocaust, Noemi Ban was slowly recovering from her traumatic past – until the Hungarian Revolution of 1956. Terrified by a resurgence of Nazi sentiment, and the increased tyranny of the Soviet regime, Noemi summoned her courage and guided her husband and young sons through a successful escape into Austria.
Welcomed into the United States as a refugee, Noemi navigated the complexities of life as an immigrant and returned to her teaching career, yet remained silent about her experiences as a Nazi prisoner. At the age of seventy-three, inspired by a speech given by fellow Holocaust survivor and Nobel Peace prize winner Elie Wiezel, Noemi returned to Auschwitz-Birkenau to confront her haunting memories and honor her loved ones. She then dedicated the next three decades to sharing her story, capturing the hearts of tens of thousands of students and community members throughout the United States and beyond.
Remarkable Resilience, written in Noemi’s voice by one of her closest friends, preserves Noemi’s legacy and messages of hope and healing. Further, Noemi’s story provides a unique historical perspective from which to view current national and international political events.
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DEDICATION…iii
TESTIMONIAL…iv
ACKNOWLEDGMENTS…ix
FOREWORD…xii
INTRODUCTION…xvi
PART I: 1922-1944
My Delight…2
Impossible to Escape History…4The Threat Comes Closer…10
PART II: 1944-1945
No Longer a Friendly Place…14
Carrying On…19
The Outside World Turns Away…23
Waiting and Still Hoping…26
Packed…29
No Time for Tears…33
Believing the Unbelievable…37
Parched…41
Holding Tightly to Humanity…44
Smoke, Music, and a Night of Horror…49
Refreshing to the Soul…54
Stepping Out…60
Recovering…63
Farewell…67
PART III: 1945-1957
Did Anyone Survive…72
Joy and Heartache…76
If You’re Alive, Be Alive…83
Ernő…86
Strangers Among Us…93
Different Lives Joined as One…99
Hitler Didn’t Stop Me…103
First the Nazis, and Now the Communists…107
My Father Moves Forward…111
Following in My Father’s Footsteps…114
Broken Promises in a World of Fear…119
A Taste of Freedom…125
Pushing Beyond the Fear…131
A Chance and a Warning…138
A Perilous Path to Freedom…143
Finally Free?…150
Helpful Hands…155
A Few More Bumps Along the Way…159
Sailing to Freedom…162
PART IV: 1957-2019
Land of the Free…166
So Much to Learn…169
A New Way of Life…173
Connecting with the Past…183
Lasting Love…187
Returning…196
Facing the Fear…204
Again and Again…215
Sharing and Healing…225
Messages of Love, Hope, and Healing…232
AFTERWORD:
My Dear Friend’s Legacy of Love…241
ABOUT NOÉMI BAN…248
ABOUT THE AUTHOR…250
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Diane M. Sue received her Ph.D. from the University of Michigan, worked as a school psychologist and school counselor for almost thirty years, and has periodically taught adjunct courses in the education and psychology departments at Western Washington University. Diane has been recognized for her professional and volunteer work with children and families, receiving the Washington State School Psychologist of the Year Award and the Western Washington University College of Education Professional Excellence Award. Diane, born in Virginia but raised in California, enjoys her cross-national work conducting conscious aging workshops and her connection with the Humanity Rising global community and with the Center for Spiritual Living. She remains very involved with climate justice work in the Pacific Northwest.Diane first met Noémi in the early 1990s. Diane and Noémi developed a close and lasting friendship, in part because of their common love of teaching and their belief in educating students about kindness, compassion, and resilience. Diane, who incorporatespositive psychology into her personal life as well as her professional work, embraced Noémi’s story and approach to life as a model of many of the character strengths addressed by positive psychologists: bravery; persistence; integrity; vitality; hope; gratitude; love; lifelong learning;perspective and wisdom; active citizenship; humor and playfulness; and a sense of purpose.Although Remarkable Resilience: The Life and Legacy of Noémi Ban Beyond the Holocaust is Diane’s first book in this genre, Diane has co-authored psychology textbooks including Foundations of Counseling and Psychotherapy: Evidence-Based Practices for a Diverse Society (2008); Understanding Abnormal Behavior, 12th edition (2022), and Essentials of Understanding Abnormal Behavior, 3rd edition (2017). Writing Remarkable Resilience has inspired Diane to take a deeper dive into the socio-political and personal issues brought forward by Noémi’s story, as well as the impact that Noémi has had on the lives she touched. Discussion questions and more details about Noémi’s life can be found at Diane’s website, Living With Resilience.com.