Therapist and speaker Jenna Riemersma applies the groundbreaking insights of Internal Family Systems (IFS) for anyone who feels stuck in unwanted feelings and behaviors, with a special focus on personal transformation for readers of faith. In Altogether You, she explains why our parts are so often at war-parts of us wanting to please others and do things right while other parts seem bent on acting out, shutting down, or engaging in hurtful behaviors. Jenna explores the surprising IFS insight that our warring parts are actually trying to help us, even when what they’re doing or feeling is not helpful. By genuinely welcoming all our parts and learning how to access our God-created core Self, we can finally experience the change, integration, and wholeness we’ve been looking for.
Altogether You delivers practical, life-affirming counsel from a leading therapist and speaker of deep personal faith. Riemersma understands the unique discouragement that people of faith experience when their actions do not line up with their sincere beliefs. With genuine sensitivity to tradition and biblical teachings, she helps readers understand that God is not waiting in frustration on the other side of our ’pile of sins’ until we ’get our act together.’ Rather, the God of grace is with us right here, right now in our core imago Dei-the always-accessible starting point for healing.
Riemersma’s book is packed with warm, personal stories and immediately applicable insights. She guides readers through paradigm-altering understandings with helpful definitions and summaries, self-inventories, action steps, and resources.
Innehållsförteckning
Foreword by Dr. Richard Schwartz
Preface
Part One: What’s Really Going On
Learning why we are divided against ourselves
1 Why Are We So Stuck?
’What I want to do, I do not do, but what I hate, I do.’
2 The Whole is Greater
How understanding our parts changes how we change
3 Where is God in All My Mess?
Surrendering to God’s image at our core
4 Listening Well to our Exiles
Hope for our hurting parts
5 Meeting our Managers
Parts that work hard to prevent pain
6 Relief for our Managers
Two major managers & the Six Fs in action
7 Meeting our Firefighters
Parts that work hard to stop pain
8 Firefighters Gone Wild
Three solutions for firefighter chaos
9 Unburdened Faith
Leaving DIY spirituality for the real thing
Part Two: This Changes Everything
Transforming our relationships with ourselves, others & God
10 New Lenses
Once we have them, there’s no going back
11 Relating More Effectively: Me to Me
All parts are truly welcome
12 Relating More Effectively: Me to God
Surrender, not striving
13 Relating More Effectively: Me to Others
Four ways to use what we’ve learned
14 Relating More Effectively: Group to Group
and Culture to Culture
Parts awareness and polarized communities
15 Final Thoughts
Where to go from here
Glossary of Terms
IFS Resources
Notes
Acknowledgements
About the Author